Katherine Morgan Schafler is a psychotherapist, writer and speaker, and former on-site therapist at Google. She earned degrees and trained at UC Berkeley and Columbia University, with post-graduate certification from the Association for Spirituality and Psychotherapy in NYC.

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  • We’ve been looking at perfectionism all wrong. As a former on-site therapist at Google, Schafler argues that you don’t have to stop being a perfectionist to be healthy and can find ways to make your perfectionist tendencies work for you rather than against you. Full of stories and brimming with humor, empathy, and depth, THE PERFECTIONIST’S GUIDE TO LOSING CONTROL is a love letter to the ambitious, high-achieving, full-of-life clients who filled the author’s private practice, and who changed her life.
  • This is a clarion call for all women to dare to want more without feeling greedy or ungrateful. Those who are sick of being given the generic advice to “find balance,” a new approach has arrived. Ultimately, Schafler will show you how to make the single greatest trade you’ll ever make in your life, which is to exchange superficial control for real power.
  • The five perfectionist types:
    • Classic Perfectionists have difficulty adjusting to schedule changes, big or small, and they tend to experience spontaneity as stressful.
    • Intense Perfectionists sets a goal that isn’t reached, or isn’t reached in the perfect manner they envisioned, so they consider the entire endeavor a failure.
    • Parisian Perfectionists want to be liked by others on a surface level. On a deeper level, Parisian perfectionism is about wanting ideal connections.
    • Messy Perfectionists take on a million and seven projects only to abandon them all. They start optimistic, but they struggle to maintain momentum unless the remainder of the process feels as exciting and as energizing (i.e., as perfect) as it did in the beginning.
    • Procrastinator Perfectionists can easily start and finish smaller-scale projects to achieve short-term goals, but they may abandon opportunities that require a longer runway because committing to any long-term process involves stopping and starting over several times.
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