The Learning Leader Show With Ryan Hawk

#274: Heidi Grant – How To Get People To Help You (Reinforcements)

The Learning Leader Show

“It’s not about being good.  It’s about being better.  Be in a constant state of continuous improvement.”

Show Notes:

  • Commonalities of sustaining excellence:
    • “All management is change management”
    • “What’s made you successful in the past may not be the case in the future.”
    • “How can I learn to be a better leader?’
    • “A constant state of continuous improvement”
    • “You’ve never arrived.”
  • “It’ not about being good.  It’s about being better.”
  • “Focus on getting better, rather than being good.”
  • Growth mindset helps you find enjoyment in what you do
  • “Focus on what you will do, not what you won’t”
  • Willpower — Need to be specific.  Get to a level of specificiaty
  • Make steady progress
    • “Have realistic optimism. I will succeed, but it will be hard.”
  • How to define success?
    • Intrinsic vs extrinsic goals:
      • A connected-ness to other people
      • Autonomy – Do what feels authentic
      • Being effective – Inherently get satisfaction by “I’m making things by making things happen in the world”
      • “Human beings are wired to to want to feel effective” — It creates lasting happiness
  • Balance – Fundamental things stand in our way.  “We all have issues with not being great at everything.”
  • Why don’t we ask others for help when we need it?  The Milgrim subway experiement
  • What does a helper need from you?
    • Must ask and help the helper be successful
  • Why we need to eliminate the phrase “Can I pick your brain?”
    • Just say what you want.  Be direct.
    • Send questions in advance.  Create opportunities for helpers to be effective
  • “When you ask someone for help, you’re giving them the opportunity to feel amazing”
  • Reinforcements – Extra personnel sent to increase the strength of an army or similar force –> Something that makes a behavior more likely
  • Why joining The Learning Leader Circle is a good idea
  • Use the “Get To Know You Document

“When you ask someone for help, you’re giving them the opportunity to feel amazing.”

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