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Episode 199: John Kralik – The Power of Gratitude (A Simple Act of Gratitude)

Episode 199: John Kralik – The Power of Gratitude (A Simple Act of Gratitude)

John Kralik is the best-selling author of A Simple Act of Gratitude: How Learning To Say Thank You Changed My Life.  I was gift this book by my friend, Omaid Homayun, after I was a guest on his podcast (which we also released on The Learning Leader Show as episode #150).  It was a life changing book.  Gratitude can be a powerful force.  It made this conversation even more special.  I appreciate John’s thoughtful approach to his life… You’ll also noticed that John unabashedly tells the truth (both the highs and the lows).  It was refreshing.

During a desperate walk in the hills of Los Angeles, John was struck by the belief that his life might become at least tolerable if, instead of focusing on what he didn’t have, he could find some way to be grateful for what he had.  Inspired by a beautiful, simple note his ex-girlfriend had sent to thank him for his Christmas gift, John imagined that he might find a way to feel grateful by writing thank-you notes.  To keep himself going, he set a goal of writing 365 thank you notes in the coming year… We discuss how his life changed following this exercise.

John Kralik attended college and law school at the University of Michigan. He practiced law in Los Angeles for 30 years and was a partner in the law firms of Hughes Hubbard & Reed, Miller Tokuyama, Kralik & Sur and Kralik & Jacobs. In September 2009, he was appointed a Judge of the Los Angeles Superior Court.  (Photo from LegalNews.com)

Episode 199: John Kralik – The Power of Gratitude (A Simple Act of Gratitude)

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“Until you are grateful for what you have, you won’t get what you want.”

In This Episode, You Will Learn:

  • Common themes of leaders who sustain excellence:
    • Being grateful for what you have will lead to continued excellence
  • How his second divorce impacted him: “The second time around, it’s your fault”
  • The power of writing thank you notes — Learned from his grandfather
  • “Until you are grateful for what you have, you won’t get what you want.”
  • Writing one thank you note per day for one year
  • “When you’re negative, you’re angry.”
  • His thank you note to his son prompted his son to take him out to lunch… What happened next? Life changing
  • “He took out an envelope and paid me back $4,000 that he owed me.” –
  • Writing all of your employees thank you notes: Why you should do this but most don’t
  • “Instead of being mad about my bad clients, I started thanking my good ones.” — The impact this had on John’s business was immense
  • “It turns out the one thing I had to be grateful for was my 8 year old daughter.” — “She loved this awful little apartment we lived in”
  • “There are so many things to be grateful for”
  • “When things don’t go well, stay positive, stay grateful… Good things WILL happen”
  • How to shift a negative mindset? — Use a pen, write it out. Write thank you notes.  Use gratitude journals.  Trying to find out the person’s address without asking them is part of the fun and the surprise.
  • John has written over 1,100 thank you notes since starting this process
  • Focus on the people supporting you everyday.  Say thank you
  • How to write a great thank you note? — John describes:
    • 4 Sentences
    • Always start with “thank you”
    • Recognize the gift (or whatever they’ve done that’s created your gratitude)
    • Write one true sentence — Why you’re grateful
    • Tell that person what they mean to you
  • Listen as John reads a thank you note he wrote to his daughter (you might cry).

Continue Learning:

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Episode 078: Kat Cole – From Hooters Waitress To President of Cinnabon

Episode 071: Nate Boyer – Green Beret, Texas Football, The NFL

Episode 179: How To Sustain Excellence – The Best Answers From 178 Questions

Episode 107: Simon Sinek – Leadership: It Starts With Why

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Episode edited by the great J Scott Donnell

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Episode 198: Ian Robertson – The Winner Effect AND How Stress Can Make You Better

 

Episode 198: Ian Robertson – The Winner Effect — The Stress Test

Ian Robertson is a clinical psychologist
 and neuroscientist with a unique ability
 to apply his research to the pressures of everyday life. His previous books, Mind Sculpture, The Mind’s Eye and The Winner Effect, have been translated into many languages and he is widely recognized as one of the world’s leading researchers in neuropsychology.

Ian taught mathematics in Fiji before training as a clinical psychologist in London and specializing in neuropsychology. A leading international researcher, he has written widely about how our brains are changed by experience, and his popular books Mind Sculpture and Opening the Mind’s Eye brought his scientific research to a wide audience.

The Winner Effect: The Neuroscience of Success and Failure. In this he shows how winning and losing shape our minds and brains more fundamentally than any drug and how our destinies depends on how we respond to success and failure.

Episode 198: Ian Robertson – The Winner Effect AND How Stress Can Make You Better

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“Success breeds success.  The mere act of winning makes it more likely you’ll win again.”

In This Episode, You Will Learn:

  • Common themes of leaders who sustain excellence:
    • Ability to set goals — Not too big but not too easy
    • Self belief — Self Confidence
  • Extrinsic vs. Intrinsic motivation
  • There will always be someone better than you.  The focus should be on improving your own self
  • Why Elon Musk and Steve Jobs transcend the norms
    • “A lot of people suffered in Steve Jobs desire to build those products”
    • Steve and Elon are anomalies, not the norm
  • “To be #1 in the industry is NOT a good goal”
  • What happens to lottery winners a year later? — “Ashes in your mouth”
  • How the brain is complex
  • What it means to be a bad dad — Pablo Picasso
  • “Success conveys power… Power changes your brain.  It creates narcissism”
  • Bad Dad’s “hide the ladder.”  They get up the tree, then do not show others how they got there.
    • “Keep a ladder down for others”
    • “They must see that it’s not God Like… That they can do it”
  • Study: Kids — Those who believe they can do better and influence their IQ, do better in school.
    • With fixed mindset, failure hurts the ego
  • How can stress make you stronger?
    • Tiger Woods example — Being nervous before a competition is a good thing (with the right mindset)
  • If you have a big presentation and you say to yourself, “I’m nervous.” You’ll do worse than if you say “I’m really excited.”
  • Adopting a challenge mindset, visualizing the reward
    • “Create a challenge mindset”
  • If you’re nervous, don’t say “I feel calm.” That’s not true and your brain knows it.  Instead, say “I’m excited.”  Use that energy for good.
  • Using the Joe Buck “So What” method — It can help with irrational fear of disapproval
  • Can too much happiness be bad for you? — Yes, over protecting our children can be bad.  They need to experience adversity.
  • “Leaders by definition have to have a vision.”

“Success conveys power… Power changes your brain.”

Continue Learning:

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Episode 078: Kat Cole – From Hooters Waitress To President of Cinnabon

Episode 071: Nate Boyer – Green Beret, Texas Football, The NFL

Episode 179: How To Sustain Excellence – The Best Answers From 178 Questions

Episode 107: Simon Sinek – Leadership: It Starts With Why

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Episode edited by the great J Scott Donnell

The Learning Leader Show is supported by FreshBooksFreshBooks is offering a 30 day, unrestricted free trial to my listeners. To claim it, just go to FreshBooks.com/Learning and enter LEARNING LEADER in the “How Did You Hear About Us?” section.

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Episode 197: Linda Rottenberg – Why Crazy Is A Compliment

 

Episode 197: Linda Rottenberg – Why Crazy Is A Compliment

Named one of “America’s Best Leaders” by U.S. News and one of TIME’s 100 “Innovators for the 21st century,” Linda Rottenberg is considered among the world’s most dynamic experts on entrepreneurship, innovation, and leadership. A frequent lecturer at Fortune 500 companies, Rottenberg is the subject of four case studies by Harvard Business School and the Stanford Graduate School of Business. Her pioneering work also earned her a host of nicknames: ABC and NPR declared her “the entrepreneur whisperer,” Tom Friedman dubbed her the world’s “mentor capitalist,” Business Insider named her “Ms. Davos,” and for years she was known as “la chica loca” (the crazy girl) for insisting that entrepreneurs existed not only in Silicon Valley but also in emerging markets around the world.

Ms. Rottenberg is also author of the New York Times bestseller, CRAZY IS A COMPLIMENT: The Power of Zigging When Everyone Else Zags, published in October 2014.  In her book, she argues that entrepreneurship isn’t just for young techies in hoodies. Whether you work at a Fortune 500 company, a non-profit, a mom-and-pop, or a startup, everybody needs the mindset to think and act like a change-maker. We all need to be nimble, adaptive, daring, and maybe even a little crazy, or risk being left behind.

Ms. Rottenberg has been profiled in the Wall Street Journal, Forbes, The Economist, Financial Times, USA Today, Strategy + Business, People, Glamour, and MORE, and has appeared on GMA, The Today Show, Morning Joe, Nightline, NPR, CNBC, CNN, Fox News, Fox Business, and Bloomberg News.  Dell featured her in its “Take Your Own Path” ad campaign and Veuve Clicquot named her Businesswoman of the Year.

A graduate of Harvard University and Yale Law School, Linda lives in Brooklyn with her husband, author and New York Times columnist Bruce Feiler, and their identical twin daughters. (From LindaRottenberg.com)

Episode 197: Linda Rottenberg – Why Crazy Is A Compliment

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“The Greatest Risk Today Is Not Taking A Risk At All.”

In This Episode, You Will Learn:

  • Common themes of leaders who sustain excellence:
    • Cannot rely too much on assumptions/success of the past
    • Can’t stop taking risks
    • Must continually challenge yourself
  • Start “Stealth”
    • Women at Cholorox started testing on the playground.  After proving it worked, they went to their bosses to implement
  • “It’s the best time ever to test ideas.”
  • Why Linda was called the “Chica Loca” — “The Crazy Girl”
  • “If you’re not called crazy at the beginning of something, you’re not thinking big enough”
  • “The greatest risk today is not taking a risk at all”
  • “People have to give themselves permission”
  • “One of the most famous spin offs was Amazon Cloud Services”
  • “The hardest person to convince to do something new is yourself”
  • Lin Manuel Miranda – Hamilton.
  • Think… “Can I afford to not do my idea?”
  • “Don’t burn the boats, but you do need to close some doors.” The Paradox of Choice
  • The problem with hollow mission statements — Uber
  • Culture can shift based on the leaders — Satya Nadella leading Microsoft
    • GE – Beth Comstock
  • MTV – How they found the best secrets through breaking corporate molds
  • “Stop focusing on your PowerPoint… Test, figure it out, then share.”
  • Jeff Bezos – 2 Pizza Rule
  • Zig when everyone else zags.  Learn to see the world differently
  • The power of being vulnerability to build trust
    • “We’ll follow you anywhere Linda”

“If You’re Not Called Crazy At The Beginning Of Something, You’re Not Thinking Big Enough”

Continue Learning:

You may also like these episodes:

Episode 078: Kat Cole – From Hooters Waitress To President of Cinnabon

Episode 071: Nate Boyer – Green Beret, Texas Football, The NFL

Episode 179: How To Sustain Excellence – The Best Answers From 178 Questions

Episode 107: Simon Sinek – Leadership: It Starts With Why

Did you enjoy the podcast?

If you enjoyed hearing Linda Rottenberg on the show, please don’t hesitate to send me a note on Twitter or email me.

Episode edited by the great J Scott Donnell

The Learning Leader Show is supported by FreshBooksFreshBooks is offering a 30 day, unrestricted free trial to my listeners. To claim it, just go to FreshBooks.com/Learning and enter LEARNING LEADER in the “How Did You Hear About Us?” section.

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Episode 196: Anthony Iannarino – The Only Sales Podcast You’ll Ever Need

 

Episode 196: Anthony Iannarino – The Only Sales Podcast You’ll Ever Need

 Anthony Iannarino is a bestselling author and internationally recognized speaker on sales, success, personal development, leadership, and entrepreneurship. Anthony’s 3 privately held staffing firms generate annual revenues of $50M. These firms serve some of the most well-recognized brands in the United States.

Anthony speaks to and provides transformational workshops to sales organizations throughout the world. His blog (www.thesalesblog.com) is read by 60,000 people each month, and his Sunday newsletter reaches 80,000 people. Anthony has continually been named one of the 25 most influential people in the world in sales and marketing.

Episode 196: Anthony Iannarino – The Only Sales Podcast You’ll Ever Need

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“Who you are matters more than what you do.”

In This Episode, You Will Learn:

  • Good vs. Great.  What separates the two?
    • Self Discipline – “Me Management”
    • Prospecting – Opportunity Creation
  • “If your dream client could already get the result they wanted, they wouldn’t need you”
  • Qualities of the best:
    • Caring
    • Other Oriented
    • Leading with insight
    • “The skill set doesn’t matter until the mindset is there”
    • Competitive
  • Is selling an art or a science?
  • Creation of The Sales Blog
  • Consistent processes
    • “I decided I’m a writer… So I write everyday.”
  • Asked to do his first keynote after writing everyday for 10 months
  • “The more you work, the more opportunity finds you”
  • EEA for every keynote:
    • Engage & Entertain
    • Educate – Mindset shift
    • Actionable Ideas – Know how to do something different
  • Interview people from the audience before every keynote.  Get to know them, their goals
  • “The best leaders don’t look at the scoreboard, they look at the players”
  • Winston Churchill leadership
  • Learn from both the good and the bad leaders — Take notes
  • “Leadership is the decision to be accountable for a result”
  • “You need to lead NOW.  You can decide to lead whenever you want, wherever you are.”
  • “Leadership is a decision. A choice.”

“Leadership is the decision to be accountable for a result”

Continue Learning:

You may also like these episodes:

Episode 078: Kat Cole – From Hooters Waitress To President of Cinnabon

Episode 071: Nate Boyer – Green Beret, Texas Football, The NFL

Episode 179: How To Sustain Excellence – The Best Answers From 178 Questions

Episode 107: Simon Sinek – Leadership: It Starts With Why

Did you enjoy the podcast?

If you enjoyed hearing Anthony Iannarino on the show, please don’t hesitate to send me a note on Twitter or email me.

Episode edited by the great J Scott Donnell

The Learning Leader Show is supported by FreshBooksFreshBooks is offering a 30 day, unrestricted free trial to my listeners. To claim it, just go to FreshBooks.com/Learning and enter LEARNING LEADER in the “How Did You Hear About Us?” section.

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Episode 195: Derek Thompson – What Makes Something A Hit? (Hit Makers)

 

Episode 195: Derek Thompson – What Makes Something A Hit? (Hit Makers)

Derek Thompson is a senior editor at The Atlantic magazine and a weekly news analyst for NPR’s “Here and Now.” He was born in McLean, Va., in 1986, and he graduated from Northwestern University, in 2008, with a triple major in journalism, political science, and legal studies. He hasn’t done much with the latter two. In 2015, he wrote the cover story “A World Without Work” about the future of jobs and technology. “Hit Makers,” his first book on the secret histories of pop culture hits and the science of popularity, comes out in February 2017. He has appeared on Forbes’ “30 Under 30” list and Time’s “140 Best Twitter Feeds.”

Episode 195: Derek Thompson – What Makes Something A Hit? (Hit Makers)

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“Think of speechwriting like a music composer.  Use repetition and choruses.”

In This Episode, You Will Learn:

  • What makes something a hit?
    • Is there a formula?  No, there is not a formula… People think there is and that’s a mistake
    • Bottom line: “Distribution beats content” — “This is an unsentimental book”
  • There is power in distribution
  • How did Simon Sinek’s TED Talk go viral?
    • It was shared by people with millions of followers on multiple platforms like Reddit
  • Think: Who is my audience? Broadcast your content to the right audience
  • Why do we always watch Dumber and Dumber and Shawshank Redemption?
    • There is nostalgia in art
    • We are always trying to recover existential love
  • How did Bumble spread?
    • Injected into mainstream consciousness through celebrity — Start with one very attractive sorority and continue to repeat
  • How did Facebook spread?
    • Piggy backed off of other networks (Harvard)
  • How Jon Favreau and President Barack Obama write speeches:
    • They think like musicians
      • Using choruses and repetition
  • The best speeches connect with people where they are — “The power of repetition in song is remarkable”
  • How has Derek made his book a best-seller?
    • Familiarity and repartition followed by surprise
      • Familiar surprises throughout
      • Great distribution

“We don’t like pure originality that much.  We like familiarity.” 

Continue Learning:

You may also like these episodes:

Episode 078: Kat Cole – From Hooters Waitress To President of Cinnabon

Episode 071: Nate Boyer – Green Beret, Texas Football, The NFL

Episode 179: How To Sustain Excellence – The Best Answers From 178 Questions

Episode 107: Simon Sinek – Leadership: It Starts With Why

Did you enjoy the podcast?

If you enjoyed hearing Derek Thompson on the show, please don’t hesitate to send me a note on Twitter or email me.

Episode edited by the great J Scott Donnell

The Learning Leader Show is supported by FreshBooksFreshBooks is offering a 30 day, unrestricted free trial to my listeners. To claim it, just go to FreshBooks.com/Learning and enter LEARNING LEADER in the “How Did You Hear About Us?” section.

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