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Episode #261: Darryl Strawberry – MLB Superstar: World Series, Home Runs, & Substance Abuse

Episode #261: Darryl Strawberry – Major League Baseball Superstar: Home Runs, Substance Abuse, & Helping Others

Darryl Strawberry helped lead the New York Mets to a World Series championship and the New York Yankees to three World Series championships.  He was also suspended three times by Major League Baseball for substance abuse.  He was a nine time all star and he hit 335 home runs during his illustrious career.

He is an ordained minister, speaker, and author.  He is taking his message to the masses with his new book, Don’t Give Up On Me — Shedding Light on Addiction.

Episode #261: Darryl Strawberry – Major League Baseball Superstar: Home Runs, Substance Abuse, & Helping Others

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“My Dad beat the crap out of me.  He told me I would never amount to anything. I believed him.” — Darryl Strawberry

Show Notes:

  • Sustaining excellence:
    • A calming presence… Confidence in what you know
    • Time spent learning to lead
    • Davey Johnson and Joe Torre — A measured, confident approach to understanding each individual and how they needed to be managed
  • Best teammates?
    • Gary Carter
    • Keith Hernandez
    • Lead by example type people… Those who are consistently doing the work every single day
    • They understand how to prepare and do not get distracted from the work
  • Darryl struggled to be consistent because of his wondering focus
  • How to bounce out of a slump?
    • “When you’re 2 for 30, how do you get yourself out of a jam?  Go to the batting cage and do the work.”
  • What was the key to winning the World Series in 1986?
    • “A complete team effort.  We were a WHOLE team. Complete.  Every guy did their part.”
  • Why did Darryl use drugs?
    • “An emptiness. I’ve never been well on the inside.  Pain led me to greatness, but was also the cause for drug use.”
    • “My dad beat the crap out of me. He told me I would never be anything and I believed him.”
  • Why are so many world class athletes insecure?
    • “They are yearning for love and do not always get it. I never had a good Dad.  I had to learn lessons on my own.  Nobody taught me.”
  • Advice to young people who do not have a Dad?
    • “Listen to your mom.  I wish I would have.  Take her direction.  Allow mentors to help you.  Allow people to power into your life.  It was hard for me to trust people.”
  • Being a dad to successful athletes — (His sons are professional basketball players and his daughters are scholarship volleyball players)
    • “I did not coach them, but I encourage them continually work to get better. I didn’t push them to play baseball.”
  • The Doc and Darryl 30 For 30
    • “I love Doc.  We are still good friends.  We’ve been through a lot.”
  • Why write Don’t Give Up On Me?
    • “There are so many problems in the world.  Addiction is everywhere.  I want to help people.  I was great, but broken at the same time.”
  • A defining moment?
    • His wife said, “If you’re ever going to get well, you have to take that uniform off.”  Had to stop identifying as a baseball player
  • “You must take responsibility for your actions”
  • “You need people in your inner circle who will be honest with you and tell you no.”
  • Day to day work: Pastor, travel, bring hope to those who are struggling”
  • Would you ever work in baseball again?
    • “No… Unless Derek Jeter called and asked me to help his team.”
  • Toughest pitcher ever faced?
    • Nolan Ryan
  • Why were you a great hitter?
    • Preparation… On deck circle.  Always getting ready
    • “Focus on hitting line drives to the opposite field.  That’s how you know you’re on it” — Keith Hernandez was very helpful
  • “It’s about people.  I should have been dead, had cancer twice, chased women, drug issues.  I have urgency everyday.”

“It’s about people. I should have been dead.  I had cancer twice, chased women, had drug issues.  I have urgency everyday.”

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More Learning:

Episode 078: Kat Cole – From Hooters Waitress To President of Cinnabon

Episode 216: Jim Collins — How To Go From Good To Great

Episode 179: How To Sustain Excellence – The Best Answers From 178 Questions

Episode 234: Jocko Willink — Why Discipline Equals Freedom

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Episode #260: Mark Divine – How To Create An Unbeatable Mind

Episode #260: Mark Divine – How To Create An Unbeatable Mind

At twenty-six Mark Divine graduated as Honor Man (#1-ranked trainee) of SEAL BUD/S class number 170. Mark served for nine years total on active duty and eleven as a Reserve SEAL, retiring as Commander in 2011.  His leadership of teams was so effective the government tasked him with creating a nationwide mentoring program for SEAL trainees.  He earned his MBA at NYU.  In 2007 he launched the SEALFIT program to provide transformational personal and team training experiences. The training utilizes an integrated warrior development model he developed, called Unbeatable Mind, which draws from his 20 years as a SEAL and business leader, 25 years as a martial artist and 15 years as yoga practitioner.  Mark has written has written four books, including The Way of The SEAL, and Unbeatable Mind.

Episode #260: Mark Divine – How To Create An Unbeatable Mind

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“Do today what others aren’t willing to do.  You’re 20X more capable than what you think.”

Show Notes:

  • Sustaining excellence:
    • People who have practices that value excellence and practice it regularly
    • Optimized training, sleep, and balance
    • Mental health:
      • Meditation, nature, learning, reducing potential to be stuck in biases
    • Emotional health:
      • Not afraid of going to therapy, spritual
  • Why is therapy helpful?
    • Mark married a therapist
    • They can be an emotional coach
    • “It’s preventative maintenance” –> Must be proactive
    • A “check up from the neck up”
  • You should always be investing in improving your “self”
    • Be mindful – yoga, zen.  It’s an evolutionary skill to help you connect at a deeper level
  • Why become a Navy SEAL?
    • Got MBA and a CPA — Got a job on Wall Street and hated it after three months
    • Started Zen meditation… It changed his brain
    • It created a structured program to look within himself and reflect
    • Mark did not like what was happening in the outer world (with his job)
    • He was meant to be a warrior and a leader
  • Did he ever have doubts?
    • No… Because he had prepared for the difficult moments through visualization and fully understanding his WHY
    • “I created total certainty in my mind. 100% that I was going to become a SEAL. I won in my mind.”
    • This outlook helped him finish #1 overall in his BUD/S class
  • How can we apply this to our world?  Outside of the military?
    • You must deeply care about what you’re doing… And then visualize your success.
    • A “personal practice of excellence”
    • “It must be something in your vision that you are really passionate about”
    • “Visualize it as a completion.  Visualize doing it to completion.”
    • “You’re the type of person who is worthy of completing that challenging task… Of achieving THAT”
  • How do you respond to skeptics?
    • The science backs it up… Do your research
    • Give it a try… Why wouldn’t you?
  • VUCA = Volatility, Uncertainty, Complex, Ambiguous — How to handle these situations
  • Creating a decentralized organization — Why this works in the military and in business (trust and certainty)
  • Why you must “learn to embrace risk” — Cannot be afraid of failure… And the plan must be flexible
  • “Do today what others won’t” — 20X more capable than what you think
  • “Society has weakened us… Everything is easy now.  You need to force yourself to do hard things.”
  • “Challenge leads to growth.”
  • “Your body will adapt to the new reality.”  “Push it past where you think it can currently go”
  • “You must challenge yourself every single day”
  • Exercise – Write your own obituary.  Think “What would people say about me?”
    • Do the deep self awareness work to “know thyself”
    • “If you don’t stand for something, you’ll fall for everything”
  • “Derive your passion around purpose. Create your set of principles.”
  • Originally, there was a scathing obituary written for Alfred Nobel… It was meant for his twin brother, but there was a mistake and someone wrote it about him.  It changed his life.  He was not aware of how badly he was thought of… And he became known for peace moving forward.  So much so… That they named a prize after him.
  • How Brad Stevens and Bill Belichick have mastered the art of coaching
  • Why the “hacking movement” is not good according to Mark
  • There must be deep learning over many years to get to mastery level of anything
  • Simplify = Be narrow on what you want, get rid of everything else. And focus
  • Use the “Get To Know You Document

“If you don’t stand for something, you’ll fall for anything.”

Social Media:

More Learning:

Episode 078: Kat Cole – From Hooters Waitress To President of Cinnabon

Episode 216: Jim Collins — How To Go From Good To Great

Episode 179: How To Sustain Excellence – The Best Answers From 178 Questions

Episode 234: Jocko Willink — Why Discipline Equals Freedom

CONTINUE

Episode #259: Shane Snow – How To Build A Dream Team

Episode #259: Shane Snow – How To Build A Dream Team

Shane Snow serves as Founder at Large at Contently, which works with Fortune 500 brands and has helped over 100,000 freelance journalists, artists, and photographers put food on the table.

His writing has appeared in Wired Magazine, The New Yorker, GQ, Fast Company, Advertising Age, The Washington Post, and others. He’s author of Smartcuts, and is now releasing his most important book yet: Dream Teams, a journey through history, neuroscience, psychology, and business to reveal what separates groups that simply manage to get by from those that get better together–and how we might make our companies and communities better by understanding the difference.
Shane has been named one of Details Magazine’s “Digital Mavericks,” called a “Wunderkind” in the New York Times, and honored as a fellow of the Royal Society of the Arts. Originally from Idaho, he studied journalism at Columbia University and lives in New York City.

Episode #259: Shane Snow – How To Build A Dream Team

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“Two heads are only better than one if they think differently.”

Show Notes:

  • Sustaining excellence:
    • 2 X @ Matrix chart
      • Skepticism and credulity
      • Optimism and pessimism
    • They believe the world can be better, but they don’t always take things at face value
    • Be skeptical AND optimistic as a leader
  • The leader should provide complete emotional AND intellectual support
    • Be willing to push. Be okay with conflict.
    • Be a “disagreeable giver” and create psychological safety
  • How to improve? Get help?
    • “I have a lot of faith in my self. A healthy ego.  But I’m paranoid about my blind spots. I want to learn so much.  I collect inputs that are critical from my business partner.”
  • Why write Dream Teams?
    • The desire to study the best teams. The best cultures.  “I wanted to learn this for my own business.”
    • “When human beings come together, we can do incredible things.”
  • The impact his Dad on Shane – A nuclear engineer
  • The importance of cognitive diversity
    • “Two heads are better than one only if they think differently.”
  • The power of ragtag teams
    • Buddy cops
      • Street smart
      • By the book
      • Man/woman teams solve crimes better
  • How to implement and execute?
    • WHO is on the team?
    • How you deal with problems/issues?
      • “We need to re-frame how we think about this.  Set up a pool to make it as cognitively diverse as possible
        • Perspective – How you view the world, who you are
        • Heuristic – The way you approach solving problems. (eg: different university, different piano teacher)
  • Think about solving problems how a movie director acts?
    • Do they use the exact same actors for every movie they direct? No, it doesn’t make sense.  They cast the best actors for each movie.  “If you’re solving different problems, why would you cast the same people every time?”
  • Shane explains why “culture fit” is not a good characteristic in hiring
  • The disaster that was the Daimler-Chrysler merger
    • Miscalculation on how much companies complimented each other
    • Culture kills most – “It’s the fact that they didn’t speak to each other.”
    • Mergers that don’t go well… People need to talk.  It’s okay to fight and disagree.  It’s ruined when people stop talking (just like a marriage)
    • “Silence is the enemy of innovation”
  • The Wright Brothers – They would argue one side of a point. Then have lunch… And switch sides of the argument.  It forced expansion of the way they thought about problems
  • Wu Tang Clan – “Competition breeds excellence”
    • Magic Johnson & Larry Bird
    • DJ’s in the Bronx
    • Competing against Ben Roethlisberger
  • Why is it okay to argue and compete?
    • “An overriding cause that’s worth it. A purpose. A passion… To win.”
  • Build an empire with people – Intense, full emotional support.  Learn each others stories, their motivations
  • Blackrock – Form a new team, have everyone tell their personal stories, develop a sense of connectedness
  • If you dislike a colleague (like Shane did): “I went to her house and met her family and friends. I learned about her life growing up and the people who support her.  It changed my perspective of her.”
  • Use the “Get To Know You Document

“Silence is the enemy of innovation.”

Social Media:

More Learning:

Episode 078: Kat Cole – From Hooters Waitress To President of Cinnabon

Episode 216: Jim Collins — How To Go From Good To Great

Episode 179: How To Sustain Excellence – The Best Answers From 178 Questions

Episode 107: Simon Sinek – Leadership: It Starts With Why

CONTINUE

Episode #258: Jesse Itzler – Creating Your LIFE Resume (Living With The Monks)

Episode #258: Jesse Itzler – Creating Your LIFE Resume (Living With The Monks)

Jesse Itzler only eats fruit ’til noon, loves Run-D.M.C., and enjoys living life “out of the box.” The author of the New York Times bestseller, Living with a Seal, cofounded Marquis Jet, the world’s largest private jet card company which he and his partner sold to Berkshire Hathaway/NetJets. Jesse then partnered with Zico coconut water, which he and his partner sold to The Coca-Cola Company.  His latest book is titled, Living With The Monks.

He’s a former rapper on MTV and wrote and performed the NBA’s Emmy Award-winning “I Love This Game” music campaign and the popular New York Knicks anthem “Go NY Go.” When he’s not running ultra-marathons, eating vegan food or being a dad to his four kids, Jesse can be found at the NBA’s Atlanta Hawks games, where he’s an owner of the team. He is married to Spanx founder Sara Blakely.

Episode #258: Jesse Itzler – Creating Your LIFE Resume (Living With The Monks)

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“I invest in people… You must look into their eyes before making a decision.”

Show Notes: 

  • Sustaining excellence:
    • Spending time around the 4,000 people who used Marquis Jet, “I always asked them about their habits.”
    • You have to create the system that works best for YOU:
      • Attack fear, take risks
      • Get up early in the morning
      • Create daily wins, momentum
      • Be a great connector, build relationships
      • Run — Create great exercise habits
      • Winning habits, routines, mindset. A system for self
  • For 27 years, Jesse has only eaten fruit before noon
  • Relying on gut instinct… How to build this, make better? Must spend time alone, to think.  Running is where this happens for Jesse (in the car for Sara)
  • Why?
    • Awareness with time… Understand your own mortality
    • A constant drive to build a “life resume”
    • You only get 1 shot to do this thing
  • Hiking Mount Washington — Helps you feel “super alive… It’s addicting.”
  • Have you always been this way? “I get bored easily. This has nothing to do with money.”
  • Always being urgent to accomplish something
  • Always carving out time for yourself.  Carve at least 1 hour per day.
  • Put parameters around your time
  • YOU are the business plan. “I invest in people… Have you ever looked into his eyes?”
  • “At the end of the day, people drive companies.”
  • Why live with the monks?
    • “I did the physical part while living with a SEAL.  I needed to focus on the spiritual part.”
      • Lived in a monastery with 8 monks… 4 had been there for 50 years
  • How living with the monks helped him handle “decision fatigue”
    • How it free’d up so much energy
  • “The power of cumulative work”
  • “Always do something hard”
    • It sets the tone for yourself
  • Don’t back away from challenges — Build the grit muscle
    • Do small things every day (clean, make the bed, finish tasks, do the dishes now)
  • “I’m turning 50.  I only have 28 summers left if I’m lucky.”
  • The perfect day =
    • Family time
    • Wellness time (running)
    • Business time
  • “Get your heart rate up!”

“At the end of the day, people drive companies.”

Social Media:

More Learning:

Episode 078: Kat Cole – From Hooters Waitress To President of Cinnabon

Episode 216: Jim Collins — How To Go From Good To Great

Episode 179: How To Sustain Excellence – The Best Answers From 178 Questions

Episode 107: Simon Sinek – Leadership: It Starts With Why

CONTINUE

Episode #257: David Marquet – Intent Based Leadership (Turn The Ship Around!)

Episode #257: David Marquet – Intent Based Leadership (Turn The Ship Around!)

Captain Dave Marquet is a 1981 U.S. Naval Academy graduate.  He served in the U.S. submarine force for 28 years. After being assigned to command the nuclear powered submarine USS Santa Fe, then ranked last in retention and operational standing, he realized the traditional leadership approach of “take control, give orders,” wouldn’t work. He “turned his ship around” by treating the crew as leaders, not followers, and giving control, not taking control. This approach took the Santa Fe from “worst to first,” achieving the highest retention and operational standings in the navy.
Stephen R. Covey said it was the most empowering organization he’d ever seen and wrote about Captain Marquet’s leadership practices in his book, The 8th Habit.

Captain Marquet is the author of Turn the Ship Around! A True Story of Turning Followers Into Leaders. Fortune magazine called the book the “best how-to manual anywhere for managers on delegating, training, and driving flawless execution.”

Episode #257: David Marquet – Intent Based Leadership (Turn The Ship Around!)

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“Leadership is not for the select few at the top. In highly effective organizations, there are leaders at every level. When we give our people more authority, we actually create more effective leaders.”

Show Notes:

  • Sustaining excellence:
    • “The ability to decouple from their personal feelings their personality. It can’t all depend on one person. In a consistent organization, the leader is part of it, but not all of it.”
  • How parenting helps you become a better leader:
    • “That’s really interesting. As a parent, you’re trying to create an independent decision maker.”
  • The United States Naval Academy definition of leadership = Leadership can be defined as directing the thoughts, plans, and actions of others… So as to obtain their command and obedience, their confidence, their respect, and their loyal cooperation.” –> Why this is wrong and not effective.
  • “I intend to…” — Intent based leadership
  • How to create the environment for the team to make decisions
  • Intent based environment:
    • People don’t need to be told what to do. Lean back, team leans forward. Don’t make yourself (as the leader) a bottleneck.
  • Risks = Tune level of control to competence or confidence of the team…
    • Expose my thought process (as the leader) to you to see how I put it together.
  • Ask “what” and “how” questions…
  • If you get hired as a new manager and did not get to choose anyone on your team?
    • “Focus on what you can control.  Do we welcome each other? Do we care? Do we connect?”
  • Making the jump from individual contributor to manager:
    • “Talk less, don’t have all the answers… Listen.”
  • “Push information to authority.  Be knowing, not telling.”
  • The job of the leader is to determine how the team works
  • Minimize cognitive burden — “The leader defines the structure.”

“We act our way to new thinking, not think our way to new acting.”

Social Media:

More Learning:

Episode 078: Kat Cole – From Hooters Waitress To President of Cinnabon

Episode 216: Jim Collins — How To Go From Good To Great

Episode 179: How To Sustain Excellence – The Best Answers From 178 Questions

Episode 107: Simon Sinek – Leadership: It Starts With Why

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