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Episode #258: Jesse Itzler – Creating Your LIFE Resume (Living With The Monks)

Episode #258: Jesse Itzler – Creating Your LIFE Resume (Living With The Monks)

Jesse Itzler only eats fruit ’til noon, loves Run-D.M.C., and enjoys living life “out of the box.” The author of the New York Times bestseller, Living with a Seal, cofounded Marquis Jet, the world’s largest private jet card company which he and his partner sold to Berkshire Hathaway/NetJets. Jesse then partnered with Zico coconut water, which he and his partner sold to The Coca-Cola Company.  His latest book is titled, Living With The Monks.

He’s a former rapper on MTV and wrote and performed the NBA’s Emmy Award-winning “I Love This Game” music campaign and the popular New York Knicks anthem “Go NY Go.” When he’s not running ultra-marathons, eating vegan food or being a dad to his four kids, Jesse can be found at the NBA’s Atlanta Hawks games, where he’s an owner of the team. He is married to Spanx founder Sara Blakely.

Episode #258: Jesse Itzler – Creating Your LIFE Resume (Living With The Monks)

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“I invest in people… You must look into their eyes before making a decision.”

Show Notes: 

  • Sustaining excellence:
    • Spending time around the 4,000 people who used Marquis Jet, “I always asked them about their habits.”
    • You have to create the system that works best for YOU:
      • Attack fear, take risks
      • Get up early in the morning
      • Create daily wins, momentum
      • Be a great connector, build relationships
      • Run — Create great exercise habits
      • Winning habits, routines, mindset. A system for self
  • For 27 years, Jesse has only eaten fruit before noon
  • Relying on gut instinct… How to build this, make better? Must spend time alone, to think.  Running is where this happens for Jesse (in the car for Sara)
  • Why?
    • Awareness with time… Understand your own mortality
    • A constant drive to build a “life resume”
    • You only get 1 shot to do this thing
  • Hiking Mount Washington — Helps you feel “super alive… It’s addicting.”
  • Have you always been this way? “I get bored easily. This has nothing to do with money.”
  • Always being urgent to accomplish something
  • Always carving out time for yourself.  Carve at least 1 hour per day.
  • Put parameters around your time
  • YOU are the business plan. “I invest in people… Have you ever looked into his eyes?”
  • “At the end of the day, people drive companies.”
  • Why live with the monks?
    • “I did the physical part while living with a SEAL.  I needed to focus on the spiritual part.”
      • Lived in a monastery with 8 monks… 4 had been there for 50 years
  • How living with the monks helped him handle “decision fatigue”
    • How it free’d up so much energy
  • “The power of cumulative work”
  • “Always do something hard”
    • It sets the tone for yourself
  • Don’t back away from challenges — Build the grit muscle
    • Do small things every day (clean, make the bed, finish tasks, do the dishes now)
  • “I’m turning 50.  I only have 28 summers left if I’m lucky.”
  • The perfect day =
    • Family time
    • Wellness time (running)
    • Business time
  • “Get your heart rate up!”

“At the end of the day, people drive companies.”

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More Learning:

Episode 078: Kat Cole – From Hooters Waitress To President of Cinnabon

Episode 216: Jim Collins — How To Go From Good To Great

Episode 179: How To Sustain Excellence – The Best Answers From 178 Questions

Episode 107: Simon Sinek – Leadership: It Starts With Why

CONTINUE

Episode #257: David Marquet – Intent Based Leadership (Turn The Ship Around!)

Episode #257: David Marquet – Intent Based Leadership (Turn The Ship Around!)

Captain Dave Marquet is a 1981 U.S. Naval Academy graduate.  He served in the U.S. submarine force for 28 years. After being assigned to command the nuclear powered submarine USS Santa Fe, then ranked last in retention and operational standing, he realized the traditional leadership approach of “take control, give orders,” wouldn’t work. He “turned his ship around” by treating the crew as leaders, not followers, and giving control, not taking control. This approach took the Santa Fe from “worst to first,” achieving the highest retention and operational standings in the navy.
Stephen R. Covey said it was the most empowering organization he’d ever seen and wrote about Captain Marquet’s leadership practices in his book, The 8th Habit.

Captain Marquet is the author of Turn the Ship Around! A True Story of Turning Followers Into Leaders. Fortune magazine called the book the “best how-to manual anywhere for managers on delegating, training, and driving flawless execution.”

Episode #257: David Marquet – Intent Based Leadership (Turn The Ship Around!)

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“Leadership is not for the select few at the top. In highly effective organizations, there are leaders at every level. When we give our people more authority, we actually create more effective leaders.”

Show Notes:

  • Sustaining excellence:
    • “The ability to decouple from their personal feelings their personality. It can’t all depend on one person. In a consistent organization, the leader is part of it, but not all of it.”
  • How parenting helps you become a better leader:
    • “That’s really interesting. As a parent, you’re trying to create an independent decision maker.”
  • The United States Naval Academy definition of leadership = Leadership can be defined as directing the thoughts, plans, and actions of others… So as to obtain their command and obedience, their confidence, their respect, and their loyal cooperation.” –> Why this is wrong and not effective.
  • “I intend to…” — Intent based leadership
  • How to create the environment for the team to make decisions
  • Intent based environment:
    • People don’t need to be told what to do. Lean back, team leans forward. Don’t make yourself (as the leader) a bottleneck.
  • Risks = Tune level of control to competence or confidence of the team…
    • Expose my thought process (as the leader) to you to see how I put it together.
  • Ask “what” and “how” questions…
  • If you get hired as a new manager and did not get to choose anyone on your team?
    • “Focus on what you can control.  Do we welcome each other? Do we care? Do we connect?”
  • Making the jump from individual contributor to manager:
    • “Talk less, don’t have all the answers… Listen.”
  • “Push information to authority.  Be knowing, not telling.”
  • The job of the leader is to determine how the team works
  • Minimize cognitive burden — “The leader defines the structure.”

“We act our way to new thinking, not think our way to new acting.”

Social Media:

More Learning:

Episode 078: Kat Cole – From Hooters Waitress To President of Cinnabon

Episode 216: Jim Collins — How To Go From Good To Great

Episode 179: How To Sustain Excellence – The Best Answers From 178 Questions

Episode 107: Simon Sinek – Leadership: It Starts With Why

CONTINUE

Episode #256: Elena Botelho – How To Become A CEO

Episode #256: Elena Botelho – How To Become A CEO

Elena Botelho has been a Partner at ghSMART since 2007. Elena initiated and co-leads The CEO Genome Project® featured in a cover article of Harvard Business Review.  Her recent book, The CEO Next Door, is a New York Times Bestseller. The CEO Genome Project® is an extensive research and client practice supporting CEO’s and executives on the path to CEO. The research explores paths and behaviors that lead to the top, typical setbacks CEO’s encounter and ways to prevent them. Elena is a member of McKinsey M&A Integration Council – an invitation-only forum of senior executives from major corporations to share M&A best practices. Elena is a sought after speaker at leading industry events on leadership and M&A.

Episode #256: Elena Botelho – How To Become A CEO

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“Charisma is a myth when it comes to success as a CEO. The research suggests introverts are equally or more successful than charismatic extroverts”

Show Notes:

  • How do we define excellence?
    • “Delivering results is how we define it”
  • The keys to excellence (delivering results)
    • Decisiveness – Conviction and speed
    • Adapting proactively
    • Relentless reliability – Delivering consistently — This is the most powerful and important behavior
    • Engage for impact
  • Self assessments
    • The lowest rated among 11,000 people Elena surveyed was: Reliability
  • Why do people struggle with consistency?
    • Consistency is hard across all domains of our lives
  • Reliability – 3 keys
    • Mindset – basic habits. How do we develop the correct mindset? -> Recognize that others need to be able to count on you. This translates to consistent habits
      • Get an honest look in the mirror
    • The WHO – Who are your surrounding yourself with?
    • Process and culture you build
  • The CEO Myths:
    • Need to go to an Ivy League school (not true)
    • CEO’s were destined for greatness (nope)
      • 70% of CEO’s never set a goal to be a CEO
    • Charisma – It helps you get the job, however when you look at results, it’s not the way the ensure results
      • Introverts are not less likely for success
  • Advice to a current individual contributor:
    • Having powerful mentors didn’t seem to help them more than those who didn’t
    • Becoming a mentor to others does show it helps
      • It forces you to be clear and become a teacher. Helps you get in the head of others and lead
  • What are some mistakes first time managers make?
    • “It can be messy”
    • Be clear on what success looks like
    • Is this the right team? Do personnel changes need to be made?
  • What are the career catapults?
    • 25% went to a top business school
    • 97% of them did one of these three sprinters:
      • 60% “went small to go big” -> Took a smaller role at an organization that led to something big
      • They took on a big mess and fixed it
      • The big leap – Take a role well before you’re ready –> Take a risk
  • Adapting proactively
    • Being able to let go of a profitable business in order for long term success (give up short term for the long term)
    • Key learning = the ability let go of the past

“Becoming a mentor to others forces you to be clear and become a teacher.”

Social Media:

More Learning:

Episode 078: Kat Cole – From Hooters Waitress To President of Cinnabon

Episode 216: Jim Collins — How To Go From Good To Great

Episode 179: How To Sustain Excellence – The Best Answers From 178 Questions

Episode 107: Simon Sinek – Leadership: It Starts With Why

CONTINUE

Episode #255: David Burkus – The Hidden Networks That Can Transform Your Life (Friend Of A Friend)

Episode #255: David Burkus – The Hidden Networks That Can Transform Your Life (Friend Of A Friend)

David Burkus is a best-selling author, a sought after speaker, and business school professor. In 2017, he was named as one of the world’s top business thought leaders by Thinkers50

His latest book, Friend of a Friend, offers readers a new perspective on how to grow their networks and build key connections—one based on the science of human behavior, not rote networking advice. He is also the author of Under New Management and The Myths of Creativity. David is a regular contributor to Harvard Business Review and his work has been featured in Fast Company, the Financial Times, Inc magazine, Bloomberg BusinessWeek, and CBS This Morning.

When he’s not speaking or writing, David is in the classroom. He is associate professor of leadership and innovation at Oral Roberts University where he was recently named one of the nation’s “Top 40 Under 40 Professors Who Inspire.”

Episode #255: David Burkus – The Hidden Networks That Can Transform Your Life (Friend Of A Friend)

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“The fundamental element that defines the quality of our lives are the people we surround ourselves with and the conversations we have with them.”

Show Notes:

  • What defines a happy life?
    • “The fundamental element that defines the quality of our lives are the people we surround ourselves with and the conversations we have with them. That’s how you live a happy life.”
  • Adam Rifkin – The “strength of weak ties”
    • The research suggests you have better odds of getting a job through a loose acquaintance than a close friend
      • “Dormant ties” are very valuable to have in your life.  Make a deliberate effort to reach back out to those people.  Use a system to keep track of those relationships
  • This is the “what” and the “how” to get it done
  • From “science” to “practice” — The key to success is to be prescriptive.  Give actionable advice
  • The story of Michelle McKenna Doyle — How she created her dream job in the NFL: 1 dormant tie – 1 degree of separation.  “Most of us are only 1 or 2 introductions away from what we want…”
  • Clusters – People tend to cluster around like minds.  There is amazing power of small communities
    • “Build your own stage, your own community”
  • Super connector – Dunbar’s # — Brian Grazer
    • Having regular curiosity conversations — That is how he met Ron Howard
  • Never ask the question, “How can I help you?”  Figure out how you can help someone else, then help them.  Don’t put the onus on them.
    • Always think, “who does this person need to meet?” And make connections
  • In a networking situation, don’t just ask – “What do you do?” — Try to learn more about them as a person, not just their job
    • “What excites you right now?
    • Who’s your favorite super hero?”
    • Where did you grow up?”
  • Be interested in order to be interesting
  • “We feel guilt when we no longer want to associate with old friends and colleagues who haven’t changed. The price, and marker, of growth.” – Naval Ravikant
  • How David and his wife measured their friendships and peer group — They made lists
  • How to give a TED Talk? — Practiced it hundreds of times, hired a coach
  • Go to www.DavidBurkus.com/Ryan

“We feel guilt when we no longer want to associate with old friends and colleagues who haven’t changed. The price, and marker, of growth.” – Naval Ravikant

Social Media:

More Learning:

Episode 078: Kat Cole – From Hooters Waitress To President of Cinnabon

Episode 216: Jim Collins — How To Go From Good To Great

Episode 179: How To Sustain Excellence – The Best Answers From 178 Questions

Episode 107: Simon Sinek – Leadership: It Starts With Why

CONTINUE

The Common Denominator of Success

From Albert Gray’s book The Common Denominator of Success

Several years ago I was brought face to face with the very disturbing realization that I was trying to research and explain what it took to be a success in sales, without knowing myself what the secret of success really was. And that, naturally, made me realize that regardless of what other knowledge I might have brought to my job and to others, I was definitely lacking in the most important knowledge of all.
Of course, like most of us, I had been brought up on the belief that the secret of success  is hard work, despite this, I had seen so many people who work hard and don’t succeed and others who succeed without working hard. Because of this, I had become convinced that hard work was not the real
secret, though in most cases it might be one of the requirements.

Given my background and training, I began trying to explain success by reviewing all relative research on such topics as motivation, behavior, performance and job satisfaction. Next, I set out on a voyage of discovery, which carried me through thousands of books, magazine and newspaper articles, biographies and autobiographies. I then conducted numerous empirical research studies in over a 20-year period.
After a time, theory, research results, and hearsay overwhelmed me. Then, one day as I was day dreaming, everything I had done came to focus. My mind focused on the realization that the secret I was trying to discover lay not only in what people did, but also in what made them do it.

I realized further that the secret for which I was searching must not only apply to every definition of success, but since it must apply to everyone to whom it is offered, it must also apply to everyone who had ever been successful. In short, I was looking for the common denominator of success. But this common denominator of success is so big, so powerful, and so vitally important to your future and mine that I’m not going to review all of the writings and research, which have brought me to the common denominator of success. I’m just going to tell you.

The common denominator of success – the secret of success of every person who has ever been successful – lies in the fact that the person formed the habit of doing things that others don’t like to do. It’s just as true as it sounds and it’s just as simple as it seems. You can hold it up to the light, you can put it to the acid test, and you can kick it around until it’s worn out, but when you are all through
with it, it will still be the common denominator of success, whether you like it or not.

Purpose
Why are successful people able to do things they don’t like to do while others are not? Because successful people have a purpose strong enough to make them form the habit of doing things they don’t like to do.

When Top People Slump
Sometimes even the best people get into a slump. When a person goes into a slump, it simply means he/she has reached a point at which, for the time being, the things he/she doesn’t like to do have become more important than the reasons for doing them. And may I pause to suggest to you that when one of your good people goes into a slump, the less you talk about production and the more you talk about “purpose,” the sooner you will pull the person out of the slump.

Habit Is The Key
Now let’s see why habit belongs so importantly in this common denominator for success. People are creatures of habit. Every single qualification for success is acquired through habit. People form habits and habits form futures. If you do not deliberately form good habits, then unconsciously you will
form bad ones. You are the kind of person you are because you have formed the habit of being that kind of person. The only way you can change is through habit.

You Have A Purpose
Here’s what has happened. Your resolution or decision has become a habit and you don’t have to make it on this particular morning. The reason you seem like a different person living in a different world is because you have, for the first time in your life, become master of yourself and your likes and dislikes. This is done by surrendering to your purpose in life. That is why behind every success there must be a “purpose,” and that is what makes purpose so important to your future. For in the last analysis, your future is not going to depend on economic conditions or outside influences of circumstances over which you have no control. Your future is going to depend on your purpose in life. So let’s talk purpose.

What Is One’s purpose?
Purpose is something set up as an object or end to be attained. Occasionally purpose is referred to as someone’s personal mission statement. In setting your purpose, or mission statement, first create an imaginary ideal life you would like to live, in every respect. Your ideal life should be based upon who you are and where you are going in life. Let yourself dream big dreams. Let your mind float freely into the future.

Wants Or Needs?
Human beings are motivated by needs and wants. A person’s needs result from a lack of something desirable, such as food, car, clothes, or shelter. Wants are needs learned by the person. They are often seen as emotional or psychological and not practical. For example, people need transportation but want a car instead of a horse or a bicycle. Most people want a luxury car instead of an inexpensive used car or truck. Instead of watching the game on television, some want season tickets. Instead of a five-room house some want a twelve-room house on two acres of land. Instead of working until one’s 80, some want to retire at an earlier time in their life mainly because they have not made their job satisfying for themselves.

Make Your Purpose Based Upon Wants.
Remember, needs are logical while wants are emotional. Your needs only push you just so far. When your needs are satisfied, they will stop pushing you. If, however, your purpose is in terms of wants and desires, then your wants and desires will keep pushing you long after needs are satisfied and until your wants and desires are fulfilled.
Recently I was talking with a young man who long ago discovered the common denominator of success without realizing it. He had a definite purpose in life and it was definitely a sentimental or emotional purpose. He wanted his boy to go through college without having to work his way through as he had done. He wanted to avoid for his little girl the hardships, which his own sister had to face in her childhood. He wanted his wife and the mother of his children to enjoy the luxuries, comforts, and even necessities, which had been denied to his own mother. He was willing to form the habit of doing things he didn’t like to do in order to accomplish this purpose. Not to discourage him, but rather to have him encourage me, I said to him, “Aren’t you going a little too far with this thing? There’s no logical reason why your son shouldn’t be willing and able to work his way through college just as his father did. Of course he’ll miss many of the things that you missed in your college life and he’ll probably have heartaches and disappointments. But if he’s any good, he’ll come through in the need just as you did. And there’s no logical reason why you should slave in order that your
daughter may have things which your own sister wasn’t able to have, or in order that your wife can enjoy comforts and luxuries that she wasn’t used to before she married you.” He looked at me with a rather pitying look and said, “But Mr. Gray, there’s no inspiration in logic. There’s  no courage in logic. There’s not even happiness in logic. There’s only satisfaction. The only place logic has in my life is in realization that the more I am willing to do for my wife and children, the more I shall be able to do for myself.” I imagine, after hearing that story, you won’t have to be told how to find your purpose or how to identify it or how to surrender to it. If it’s a big purpose, you will be big in its accomplishment. If it’s an unselfish
purpose, you will be unselfish in accomplishing it. And if it’s an honest purpose, you will be honest and honorable of it. But as long as you live, don’t forget that while you may succeed beyond your fondest hopes and your greatest expectations, it is impossible to succeed beyond the purpose for which you are sacrificing. Furthermore, your surrender will not be complete until you have formed the habit of doing the things that others don’t like to do.

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